How To Stop Blaming Yourself For Everything

Do you find yourself saying “I’m Sorry” multiple times a day?

Constantly apologizing for things you didn’t do or are out of your control?

Why are we so hard on ourselves?

The Voice Of Our Inner-Critic

Self-blame and criticism are behaviors that are learned over time. Maybe you had a particularly critical influence in your life that has taught you to over-apologize. Negative self talk can ruin your self-esteem and confidence.

That destructive voice inside can really hold you back from thriving in life. Negative thinking can affect everything from your relationships to performance at work or school. The good news is you can change your mindset to welcome positivity and cultivate happiness in life in a few simple steps.

Recognize Your Emotions

It’s OK to feel a variety of emotions each day. Sometimes these are negative. What’s more important is to pay attention to triggers when you sleep into a bad mood or become upset. The more in touch you are with your feelings, the better you’ll understand what ignites your inner critic so you can stop it from becoming destructive.

Create A Plan For Positive Self Talk

If you want to stop over apologizing and blaming yourself for everything, then you need to change the way you think. Often times, people who take the blame are very compassionate. They care deeply about others and take the blame so others don’t have to experience negativity.

Start by practicing self-love and care. Speak kindly to yourself. As a general rule of thumb, if you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself.

Develop A ‘Glass Half Full’ Mindset

Try seeing life through a different lens! This is what we mean when we talk about going from surviving to thriving. In order to develop that thriving mindset, you’ll have to change your outlook and thinking.

View mistakes as learning opportunities. Accept challenges and defeat as part of life. Look for ways to self-improve without beating yourself up or constantly taking the blame.

Above all, remember to be kind to yourself because you are doing the best you can!