How To Maintain Your Identity When “I” Becomes “We”

If you’re in a monogamous relationship, then you know how wonderful it can be to find someone you love so deeply.

Often times, especially through marriage, couples become a unit which can be a good thing! You might enjoy the same activities, hang out with the same people, and finish each other’s sentences.

Being in a loving relationship is an amazing thing. But sometimes, it’s easy to lose sight of yourself when every new decision you make suddenly affects another person. The good news is every couple can learn to maintain their individuality while still growing together.

Start with these tips!

Do What Makes You Happy

Relationships are all about compromise, but remember that your personal happiness is still important.

Make time for healthy hobbies that you enjoy.

Don’t be afraid to schedule a little “me” time to take care of yourself.

Make an effort to spend time apart when possible. This will help maintain other relationships in your life. it will also keep you from putting too much pressure on your partner to be your everything.

Set Healthy Boundaries Within Your Relationship

Every couple is made from two unique individuals sometimes with different opinions, thoughts, and beliefs. You have to have a good understanding of your personal self when you’re in a relationship in order to set boundaries accordingly.

You don’t have to change who you are to meet someone else’s standards. Saying “no” can help prioritize yourself and your feelings.

Ask For Guidance

No matter where you’re at in your relationship, couples therapy can help you identify what’s working and what’s not. Through couples counseling, we want to help you connect with your partner and for you to feel supported and validated. You can get that “loving feeling” back again and in a deeper way than ever before.

Couples Counseling can help couples build a firm foundation before their wedding day, help couples resolve a specific conflict or help save a marriage after infidelity. Right now, your problems seem overwhelming. But our therapists have seen other relationships in crisis. We’ve worked with other couples who are tired of arguing.

Whether you are trying to work through something small or on the brink of divorce, counseling can help. If you and your partner are ready to work on your relationship as individuals and as a couple, we’re here to support you!