Celebrating LOVE on Valentine's Day

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Love.

It’s a four-letter word everyone’s talking about with Valentine’s Day approaching. But the true meaning of love is complex. It’s an emotion perhaps more powerful than any other emotion!

Love is about setting priorities…
Love is about respect and trust…
Love is about respect and kindness…
Love is patient…
Love is SO many things!

Love Is Not Dependent On The Outcome

“Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity”

C.S. Lewis

It’s hard when people don’t return your love the way you hoped. It requires you to be courageous, resilient and hopeful. As hard as rejection can seem, it’s important to know that love is never wasted.

Love is patient which means you can’t get too caught up on someone’s response to your love and generosity. Give love freely to better someone else and not in a desire to make yourself feel better. It means that your care is not dependent on their response. Loving well is never a waste.

We don’t need to look to the past regretfully, but we can look back with gratitude for the opportunity we were given to love at all.

The Dangers of Living A Surface-Level Life

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Have you ever thought about why lies below the surface of your life?

We’re talking about the deep and meaningful pieces that make you unique. In the age of social media and online connection, it’s so easy for us all to see what’s on the surface.

As therapists, we’re blessed to be able to get to really know our clients. In fact, we help them transform from surviving (surface level) to thriving (revealing the unique layers).

When you think about it, the amount of time we are here on earth compared the time of all eternity is like a micro-second. That thought really
helps put the old saying “life’s too short” into perspective. If you feel like your living on the surface of your life just going through the motions each day, here are a few ways you can dig deeper and live an enriched life.

Stop settling

You deserve more! Being clear, honest, and open about your feelings can
add to your happiness and fulfillment in life.

Take action

We all complain- it’s human nature! One of the keys to a happier life is taking action and moving forward. When you develop a negative mindset, you will be stuck that state which is no way to live!

Cultivate your happiness

It’s true! You really can take charge and create happiness in your life. Start
by practicing gratitude and mindfulness. Even on the worst day, you’ll realize there’s always something to be thankful for.

Therapy can also be a great option for those who are looking to live an enriched life. The core belief of our practice is focused on helping people
THRIVE instead of just survive in life. Let’s create your plan for a life beyond the surface level today

Living Well: How To Adjust To A ‘New Normal’ In Life

Anxious Teenager | Anxiety Treatment | Foundations Family Therapy | Fuquay Varina & Raleigh, NC

There’s no way to prepare for a challenging setback in life.

You don’t really know how a life-changing diagnosis will affect you until you are faced with it head-on. For some people, the uncertainty is almost as bad as the diagnosis itself.

Maybe you just received a diagnosis that you were not expecting, or perhaps you’ve been living with it for a while. It’s not the path you would have chosen. But here you are trying to navigate your “new normal” while balancing physical symptoms, doctor’s appointments, treatment plans, and schedules.

As you continue to navigate the waters of your ‘new normal’, keep in mind that there is no right or wrong way to feel. Everyone experiences change differently. These tips will help you stay grounded during difficult seasons of change and adjustment in your life…

Adjust Emotionally

A life-changing medical diagnosis often comes with a wide range of care and support from your healthcare team. It’s likely your physical health is in good hands, but too many neglect their emotional wellness.

Allow yourself to feel. Someone dealing with a life-changing diagnosis might experience periods of shock, numbness, denial, anger, disorientation, and emotional pain. Recognize your feelings and be kind to yourself!

Maintain Your Routine

Don’t let a diagnosis keep you from thriving in life! You don’t have to give up everything you once enjoyed…you just have to find new ways to enjoy them!

For example, you might really love your morning walk around the neighborhood with a friend. If you’re adjusting to a ‘new normal’ that prevents you from continuing your walk with a friend, invite them over for morning coffee on the porch. You can find ways to spark joy in life even if it requires change.

Accept Change

Acceptance is a process of ups and downs. Don’t expect your adjustment to happen overnight. It’s a transformative process that takes place over time. And, even thought you might not have control over your condition, you do have control over your reaction.

You can still live a rewarding and fulfilling life! Your ‘new normal’ might not be the path you would have chosen, but you are in control of what you’ll do next.

Life is a beautiful gift and each day is worth living. If you or a loved one needs support in navigating the waters of change in life, our team is here for you!

How To Stop Blaming Yourself For Everything

EMDR Therapist | Anxiety Treatment | Foundations Family Therapy | Fuquay Varina & Raleigh, NC

Do you find yourself saying “I’m Sorry” multiple times a day?

Constantly apologizing for things you didn’t do or are out of your control?

Why are we so hard on ourselves?

The Voice Of Our Inner-Critic

Self-blame and criticism are behaviors that are learned over time. Maybe you had a particularly critical influence in your life that has taught you to over-apologize. Negative self talk can ruin your self-esteem and confidence.

That destructive voice inside can really hold you back from thriving in life. Negative thinking can affect everything from your relationships to performance at work or school. The good news is you can change your mindset to welcome positivity and cultivate happiness in life in a few simple steps.

Recognize Your Emotions

It’s OK to feel a variety of emotions each day. Sometimes these are negative. What’s more important is to pay attention to triggers when you sleep into a bad mood or become upset. The more in touch you are with your feelings, the better you’ll understand what ignites your inner critic so you can stop it from becoming destructive.

Create A Plan For Positive Self Talk

If you want to stop over apologizing and blaming yourself for everything, then you need to change the way you think. Often times, people who take the blame are very compassionate. They care deeply about others and take the blame so others don’t have to experience negativity.

Start by practicing self-love and care. Speak kindly to yourself. As a general rule of thumb, if you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself.

Develop A ‘Glass Half Full’ Mindset

Try seeing life through a different lens! This is what we mean when we talk about going from surviving to thriving. In order to develop that thriving mindset, you’ll have to change your outlook and thinking.

View mistakes as learning opportunities. Accept challenges and defeat as part of life. Look for ways to self-improve without beating yourself up or constantly taking the blame.

Above all, remember to be kind to yourself because you are doing the best you can!

Refresh Your Mindset: How To Go From A to B Instead of A to Z

Footprints | Faith Based Therapy | Foundations Family Therapy | Fuquay Varina & Raleigh, NC

We’ve all been there before…

You set a goal to motivate yourself and one thing leads to another. Work, the kids, deadlines, soccer games, grocery shopping- where does the time go?!

Soon, a few months pass and you aren’t any closer to your big goal leaving you feeling defeated, overwhelmed, and maybe even hopeless- sound familiar?

Burnout & Stress Lead To Overwhelm

Unrealistic personal goals usually do more harm than good in the long run. You essentially set yourself up for failure by having high standards or you become too consumed with perfectionism.

When your mindset is focused on always wanting more, you loose site of so many wonderful things in life.

However, having motivation and goals in life is important. The good news is you can create the perfect balance of motivation without getting overwhelmed if you change your mindset.


Baby Steps Over Leaps

If you have a big goal, you don’t have to toss it out the window. Dreams and aspirations are great motivators. The key is developing a mindset that welcomes change and personal growth.

Instead of going from A to Z, take as many baby steps as you need. Try going from A to B. Think about one small thing you can (realistically) do today that will move you one step closer to the bigger goal. This mindset will help you feel motivated and accomplished which is just the fuel you need to take another baby step the next day….or week.


Practice Self-Love

Above all, on your journey to personal improvement and growth, don’t forget to be kind to yourself. Sometimes, life really does get in the way. Enjoy the moment at hand for what it is and try to refocus.

After all, life isn’t about how many times we fall, but how many times we get back up!

5 Inspiring Quotes To Welcome Spring

Child Therapist | Teen Counseling | Foundations Family Therapy | Fuquay Varina & Raleigh, NC

Spring is a season filled with hope! In nature, we watch beauty bloom and regrow around us. There’s optimism and cheer in the warm breeze as we welcome the new season ahead.

Let go of the long, cold days of winter and welcome the warm sunshine of spring with these inspiring quotes.

The Positive Side of Unpleasant Experiences

Anxious Teenager | Anxiety Treatment | | Foundations Family Therapy | Raleigh, NC 27606

Why is it that some people seem to be able to weather difficult storms in life with strength while others shut down at the mere thought of disappointment?

It all boils down to personal resilience and your ability to adapt. The good news is resilience is learned.

You can learn new ways to respond to your own thoughts and feelings when unpleasant experiences arise. Though we can’t always control life’s challenges and setbacks, we can control the way they make us feel.


Life’s Difficulties Help Us Gain Perspective

Your vacation cruise was canceled because of a hurricane …
You’ve been searching for a new job for months now with no success…
You lost a loved one this year…

All of these difficulties, whether small or big, are about personal perception. For example, if you perceive a difficult situation as threatening, you might lose your ability to face it. This can lead to an endless cycle of negativity and avoidance. In stead of adapting and building your inner strength, you continue to shut down. However, if you change your prospective, you can develop coping abilities and work toward peace, happiness, and resolution.

Setbacks Can Make Us Stronger

There are many opportunities to develop resilience daily in our lives. Setbacks force us to weather the storm or come up with another plan. This type of adaptation helps us grow. It helps strengthen our resilience. Even the little unpleasant experiences in life like spilled coffee, running late, or
locking your keys in the car can help build resilience and strength.

Challenges Expand Our Emotional Capacity.

Compassion, love, empathy, pain, disappointment, and grief are just a few emotions that arise from unpleasant experiences. Pain gives us a great insight on self knowledge and awareness. These challenges help us strengthen our mental and emotional wellness.

We can’t avoid pain, setbacks, depression, anxiety, and unpleasant experiences in life. But, we can work on ways to overcome them. Ways to welcome happiness and build inner strength. We can learn to treat ourselves with kindness.

If you’d like to learn more about ways to alleviate depression and manage anxiety, learn more about our upcoming Freedom From Anxiety & Depression Weekend Intensive.

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How To Be More Positive Everyday

Negative thoughts can prevent you from enjoying and living life to the fullest. Whether you’re worrying about the future or replaying history in your mind, negative or unwanted thoughts only grow stronger the more we focus on them. They can interfere with out productivity and focus.

Luckily, when it comes to banishing negative thoughts and channeling positivity, there are some things you can do to thrive. Start with these tips today and be proactive about your mental wellness and personal happiness.

1. Be Mindful! Live in the present moment. Enjoy each day for what it is. When we focus on the present, it’s easier to be grateful. Gratuity is a big part of happiness and positive thinking. Don’t get lost in the what ifs and try to move on from your past mistakes-don’t dwell!

2. Find The Lesson. Almost every setback or downfall has a learning opportunity even if it’s not easy to identify at first. It’s not about how many times you fall, but how many times you get back up again. Try to build a little resilience each day which will help you develop a glass half full mindset.

3. Acknowledge Your Emotions. It’s OK to have a bad day or simply feel sad. No one can be positive 100% of the time. Negative emotions can keep us safe and help grow. Start labeling your feelings. Accept negative feelings as a temporary response to a bad situation. Acceptance will help you move on.

4. Redirect Your Focus. Walk away. Step back. Use technology to your advantage. Whatever you decide, find a simple, positive way to divert your attention away from your negative thoughts. Channel positive thinking by replacing your negative thoughts with positive ones.

We’re here to walk with you through the struggles of life so you can become more positive, happy and fulfilled each day.